You vs Tradition :: Contemplating a first look?

I’m sure you’ve heard that it is considered bad luck for the groom to see his bride before the wedding. Do you know the history of that? In the earlier days it was considered that the bride would become “impure” if she saw her groom OR herself in the mirror before that walk down the aisle. The wedding ceremony symbolized leaving the old and making new, therefore if a bride and groom came into each other’s presence before the actual ceremony the new had been tarnished.

This tradition has carried on for many years to follow and only been challenged by those brides on the cutting edge! (Or so think those tied to tradition!) It used to be that the only flow of your ceremony, pre and post, leading to the reception would go as such…pictures of each side finishing final touches and a few family/bridal party shots; ceremony; ALL pictures of family, bridal party, bride and groom; reception. Often now many pictures are taken before the ceremony of the bride/groom, family, bridal party, and even all together. In the case that the bride and groom make their reveal before the ceremony, it is called a First Look. Are you one torn between following tradition and seeing your counterpart before the wedding?

Here are a few positive points with a First Look:

  • How are your nerves? If you are going to be a nervous wreck and know that the only person that can bring you back to reality and make you enjoy the day is your fiance, maybe you should see each other before the ceremony. Often an anxiety attach can come on just before the wedding if you have built up the anticipation and laying eyes on that person can eliminate all of that!
  • Are you ready to join the party? One way to get to your reception earlier is to knock out so many of those post-ceremony shots. You can choose to do only pictures with your fiance, leaving family and bridal party after, or you can do ALL pictures pre-ceremony and walk straight down the aisle and to the party! If you are crunched for time, really want those romantic pictures that will be in the perfect sunlight after the ceremony, or simply are ready to enjoy your guests, this option might be right up your alley!
  • What type of pictures do you want? Do you know that you actually get a better “reaction shot” from both sides when you do a First Look? You will be seeing each other in a much more intimate setting, not in front of 50, 150, 250 guests, and your photographer will be able to position him/herself in a way that can really capture all. This is especially true when your photographer works alone or the church has certain rules that can’t bend.

Don’t get me wrong, doing a First Look is not for all couples, but these are some perks that can created an added bonus by doing such. For those of you toying with the idea, but hearing a little chatter from family members (or your fiance) know that you are not the first, certainly not the last, and will not be tempting luck!

So, what type of bride are you?